Ready for some cheese?

Yesterday i watched a season finale of a tv-series I've been following for a while. Although good in most parts, one thing bothered me more than it should. See, the writers went with the usual and very common twist of breaking up the end-game couple for maybe the eighth time. To begin with, the way it happened had me frustrated since it once again dealt with one side of the couple apparently taking it upon themselves to decide whats best for both of them and thus ending it so the other "can go and pursue their dreams independently" and what not. I'm not quite sure I got the mood right, but was it supposed to come of as a noble self-sacrifice or just melodramatic and naive? Beccause to me, it sure landed in the latter category. This however, also seems like something that needs to be done in order to please the "generation me". Apparently, these days, it's completley wrong, if not impossible, to follow your dreams and become your own person unless you're completley alone when doing it. How in the world did it end up like that?

Allot of people got this notion that you need to find your dream, pursue it, come in to your own person, perhaps make a career, love yourself, find yourself and have your life in perfect order before you're ready to meet someone and start a relationship. It can't be just me that thinks there is something very wrong with that idea. If you're so well adjusted to making it on your own, how does that make you in any way more prepared to take on the challenges of a relationship? Especially since neither of you will cease to grow just beccause you met someone, and now, all of a sudden, you need to start to lear how to grow with another person, something that's completley different to growing on your own. My theory is that this is a big reason to all the divorces these days. People rant about biology and whatever, the change of time and modern civilization as reasons why we never really seem to stick together. You hear people talk of monogamy as something unnatural. Can I just say BS? Natural or normal hasn't got a thing to do with it. You find your way to you own life and stick with it if it makes you feel good, otherwise you change it. But don't try and make other peoples choices into abnormal just beccause you can't understand them.

Ok, so, a bit of a rant there. But to get to the point. What really bothered me in this season finale episode is how once againe, love was, to me, once again portaited as somewhat of a nuisance in the way of peoples personal goals. Now I don't know what your oppinion of love is, but for me (as a bit of a hopeless romantic) there is nothing that can motivate you more or make you work harder than love. So why portrait it as something that's in the way of your personal goals? Is it impossible to find your personal dream just beccause you're in love or in a relationship? To me, that just sounds absurd. It just seems so terribly black and white, and if you've read my previous post in english here or are acquainted with the swedish language and have read my earlier posts, you know what I feel about black and white reasoning.

By the way, I am myself a rather good picture of that person I described in the beginning of the second paragraph, although unintentionally. I chased my dreams, traveled, got an education, a job, working on my career and I've got a decent life. It's just lonley since I apparently didn't prioritize how to grow in a relationship instead of on my own.

Oh, and the tv-series you ask? Well, suffice to say I'm a Gleek.